Why Leah Fessler Is Wrong About Porn & Feminism

Yesterday, I came across an article written by someone called Leah Fessler, she’s a writer for Quartz – an upper-class lifestyle magazine that covers a range of different topics that appeal to Manhattan SJWs, people with degrees in an Arts topics and soccer moms. Basically, it’s a progressive news source that peddles a lot of pop science to shove their Bernie Sanders agenda down your throat.

Anyway, less about Quartz, let’s talk about the article entitled What’s wrong with this picture: Pornhub, the web’s biggest porn site, is now teaching sex ed. Let me tell you, this one is stuck about five years in the past, back when feminists tried to argue that porn sucked, until they realized that it’s a terrible argument. Anyway, to help educate Leah Fessler and others, here’s why the article is full on nonsense and its attack on porn is ridiculous.

I want to first state that the bulk of the article is about something I’m not actually going to cover. I don’t think Pornhub starting a sex ed platform is that much of an issue, but I don’t care enough about it to analyse the situation any further. Instead, what I’ll do is take quotes of stuff that Leah’s said, laugh at it, then tell you why you should laugh at it too!

If any industry has negatively impacted young peoples’ understanding of healthy sexual behavior, it’s mainstream porn.

At school, I was never taught about sex. I knew nothing about it – my first real contact with the female body involved porn images I found on a laptop my uncle gave me, buried deep in a secret folder that he probably never realized I’d one day come across. I looked at the pictures – breasts, curves, hips, bare legs and all the rest. It was a collection of porn paysite image sets with a nude model posing, typically in sunny environments with her skin looking shiny and delicious. I remembered looking at her vaginal region, because I had no idea what was going on there. This was around the age of 11, and I didn’t know at that time how sex worked. I didn’t know that the pussy was a hole: I thought that when men had sex with women, they simply put the penis on either side of the pussy mound, up where the thigh meets the hips, and just fucked there. I was stupid, I knew nothing – until around the age of 12 when I started using the Internet to find porn.

I learned all I had to learn about sex through porn: I learned how the pussy worked, I learned what erections were, I learned about positions, passionate kissing, all that kind of thing. This was all at the age of 12 – now, naturally, I’m not going to sit here and propose a policy where children of any age can watch extreme pornography, but I’m also not going to pretend that my pre-teen experience with pornography damaged me or gave me false ideas of what sex was about. In fact, it was the only source I had to get that kind of information. I imagine that many other people reading this now would agree: an early exposure to pornography isn’t as damaging as people like to imagine it is.

Mainstream porn routinely presents false narratives about female bodies and pleasure, eroticizes sexual abuse, and entirely ignores sexual consent.

Oh man, that fucking chestnut again. You know what presents a false narrative about female bodies? The MILLIONS of overweight people every year that die early as a result of the fact that they have poor health. The attack on girls wanting to be of a healthy body weight is absolutely fucking disgusting from anti-porn and anti-advertising SJWs. Heaven forbid a chick not wanting to have her own gravitational field, right? I’m not sure what ‘eroticizes sexual abuse’ means, but if that refers to BDSM, that branch of the adult industry has done a wonderful job showing how physical and emotional abuse during a scene can heighten the erotic experience. Additionally, you only need to turn to Kink.com to refute the concept that there’s an ignorance toward sexual consent – they spend 15 minutes on each video talking to the models, asking how they feel, following up once it’s done and yeah, let’s just say that every time, those chicks fucking LOVE being tied up, spanked, fucked in the ass and covered in cum.

This is basically the brunt of the argument that I have against dumb ‘feminists’ like Leah Fessler: you’re insulting every woman out there that has ever consumed porn, engaged in BDSM, enjoyed a fantasy rape scene and so on by telling them that what they’re doing is not in their best interests. You’re stripping women of their agency, which is the antithesis of what feminism is about.

By letting users intuit motivations behind the sexual wellness site, Pornhub shirks responsibility for the damage it’s now apparently invested in remedying.

What damage? What has occurred in the world as a result of pornography? People learning about sex that they would otherwise be in the dark about because schools don’t give anywhere near enough education on the topic? Please Leah, tell the world what damage porn has actually done, but here’s a tip: make sure it doesn’t involve the ‘plight’ of women as a result of porn if you’re not willing to address why so many ladies love porn, love being fucked and love being dominated.

If Pornhub truly believes in sexual wellness, perhaps the top hits when one searches “sexual wellness” on Pornhub’s main site shouldn’t be videos of women being gagged by penises and incest.

You’d be surprised how much my girlfriend loves my dick being shoved down her throat. She recently went on holiday for a few weeks and after around 4 days, sent me this exact message, word for word: “I cannot wait to come back and have you fuck my face!” – completely unprompted by me in any fashion. You’d also be surprised how much girls I’ve previously had sex with also enjoy the rough stuff, ESPECIALLY when they get to call me daddy.

On the ‘incest’ topic: it’s disingenuous to call it that in such a simple fashion, because the reality of ‘incest porn’ is that it’s all simulated. They’re not actually brothers and sisters – they’re pretending, because it’s a taboo. That’s how taboos work: you play on themes that are considered to be wrong, dirty or unacceptable. People who enjoy incest porn don’t suddenly want to fuck their stepmoms: they simply do it because the taboo in the story line makes it erotic.

Anyway, I think I’ve said all I need to say. Put simply, sex negative feminism removes agency from women who enjoy BDSM, rough sex, taboo topics and the like. Telling women what they should and shouldn’t like isn’t feminism, it’s what men have historically done for thousands of years – and why we need feminism in the first place.

Mr. Porn Geek is looking forward to Leah’s attack on the problematic nature of Cersei’s relationship with Jaime in Game of Thrones. Please, holy feminist, tell us how it’s problematic for the youth of today to see such disgusting filth on their televisions.